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How to control your thoughts


It is a fact, it all starts in your mind. You wake up in the morning, tired, you’d rather stay in bed, and a heavy weight is upon you. A strange feeling of sadness, but you do not understand why you feel this way. Suddenly this dark cloud overshadows your thoughts and the darkness thickens. You feel lonely and empty. Even finding the strength to carry on seems overwhelming. And yet you do it, you get up, get ready for work, take the bus, the train, grab a coffee and a newspaper on your way to the office and gradually, the malaise vanishes, or rather fades away into the background. Workmates, friends, acquaintances, being socially acceptable seem to ease the pain and chatting away gives a momentary relief. But it is when you less expect it that a thought comes to your mind and stabs you in the heart. Suddenly you feel bad again, robbed from your happiness, and you cannot do anything. You seem to be controlled by your thoughts and your emotions.

Today I would like to spend a bit of time talking about the fact that we have the capacity to control our thoughts rather than being controlled by them. We are what we think. The thought patterns we entertain in our mind end up directing our life. You would know the old saying, that “a thought reaps an action, an action reaps a habit, a habit reaps your character and your character reaps your destiny”. What you will become starts with what you think. Think negatively and you can be sure that you will see a negative outcome in your life. But thank God, the opposite is true and I invite you to take this step today. Set in motion the course of your life by what you think. If you don’t understand this, you will allow circumstances to direct your life. You have to learn to rise above your circumstances. Not only to keep your head above water and barely make it, but to walk on water and overcome every obstacle, this is the abundant, the fruitful life! Do you want it ? Start changing the way you think, and do it today ! It takes 30 seconds to make an adjustement. Decide to change today and you will take the necessary steps to make it happen. If you just go with the flow, you are heading towards a big disaster, it’s time to take control of your life!

Your mind is a real battlefield, there is a war going on inside of you. What side will you be on? If you entertain negativity, it is likely that it will win the battle of your mind. No, you are in control and it should not happen. Often we conform to the thought patterns that we inherited from our parents, many will argue that we are the product of our upbringing, our education. There are also all the wounds and the pain that life may bring, these too have a direct influence on how we think and what we think. Words spoken against us, by our family, our teachers, people we grew up with, these words have acted like seeds germinating in us; fully grown they produce a bitter fruit in us. Well, it’s time to uproot this bad tree, it’s time to plow the land of your mind and to sow good seeds, that will produce good fruit, and it’s not too late for that!    

It is essential to understand how you see yourself. Many people suffer from low self-esteem because of painful experiences such as rejection or abuse. But most of the time we don’t even know why we form these negative thoughts. The reason why we fail to identify the origin of negative behavior or negative thinking is that most of the time this origin is spiritual.

First of all, I would like to clarify one thing. The symptoms we have mentioned above like sadness, depression, low self-esteem, result from a disease of the soul. Until the soul is restored, there is no hope of complete healing. I will therefore speak here at two different levels. I will address the regenerated man as well as the unregenerated one. Let me explain. There is a spiritual principle that needs to be understood. The world we live in is a broken and fallen world. It does not function the way it should. It is broken, it has lost its integrity, it is corrupted. It is the spiritual principle of the Fall we are talking about. In the beginning everything was good and in tune with the divine. Man and woman lived together in harmony between themselves and with the divinity. They where whole, complete, spiritually, emotionally and physically. It is after breaking this spiritual principle that they have fallen and taken with them the rest of the created order. The relationship has been broken, a gap has been created between mankind and the divine being. By losing our connection with the spiritual realm we also have lost touch with ourselves. We cannot connect with our emotions the way we want to. That is why even before thinking of learning how to deal with your thoughts and emotions you have to realign yourself with the spiritual reality, there is no other way. It is time to understand that the invisible, the spiritual realm, is in fact more real than the world we can see and touch. Furthermore, it is at the root of everything. So if you want to live a victorious life, you’d better start living your life acknowledging this reality.

Once reconciled with God, man can be fulfilled and be free to be everything he dreamed he could be. Now it is possible to live in a new freedom, the chains are broken, but he needs to learn how to walk in this new freedom. Perhaps are you in the same situation. You have experienced the new birth, you have been set free, received a new spirit and yet you are still living in bondage, prisoner of your fears, taken as hostage by your thoughts.

It is time to replace these old forms of thinking with new ones, to renew your mind. Stop considering yourself a failure, stop thinking that if it did not work in the past it will never work for you. Do not dwell in the past, there is something new ahead of you! The past can no longer dictate you what to do or what to think. The old has gone and the new has come, all things have become new!

You have to start shifting the focus from your perspective to God’s perspective. You have to see yourself the way he sees you. And it is, like his child. You are loved, accepted, forgiven and you have received favor. The “reality” of your circumstances seem to say otherwise, but it is because your present circumstances are the result of the thoughts you have been thinking up to this point. Change the way you think and you will see that the world around you will change too.

It is time to start scanning your thoughts, not to allow anything negative or destructive to dictate you. It is time to say “Stop! I don’t want to think like that anymore!” and to replace this “stinking thinking” with new pure, positive, constructive thoughts.

It is all by Grace and if you are not yet a child of God I would encourage you to take a step of faith towards him. If you focus on how big he is you will soon find out that your problems are not so impossible to overcome.

May you find in Jesus this hope. He is the only one who promises a water that truly quenches your thirst, the living water. You can only go so far trying to achieve these things yourself, but it is only with the help of the Holy Spirit you will truly experience freedom and fullness of life. If you are searching, I would say to you, stop searching, the answer is yes and the time is now. He is the way, the truth and the life. Make a step of faith and get to know him today.


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Surely, there is a way

I find that all these websites on personal development, self-improvement, motivation, have one thing in common, at the center is the ego, in fact, the exaltation of the ego. What they offer seems attractive at first, but in the end is dangerous, and even destructive. Let me explain.
You find at the core of the belief-system that supports these types of teachings a dangerous ideology. There is nothing wrong with wanting to be a better person, to improve your performance, to generally be a happier, healthier and more fulfilled person. Unfortunately, too often these ideals are presented in a way that is so centered on self-fulfillment and self-satisfaction that it is somewhat damaging to us and to others.
Nothing new under the sun, as these so-called New Age teachings are not new at all but find their roots in ancient philosophies and paganism. Buddhism, Zen are at the basis of this movement that is better known under the term New-Age. In a nutshell, they shift the focus from the Creator to the Creature. Since there is no Personal Infinite God, I am free to worship the elements, or the created order. Sun worship or this recent exaltation of Nature are linked in a sense. I become part of this creation with which I can connect. There is a spirituality that lies on how to tap into these infinite sources of energy. The bottom line here is : what can I get for my life? What is there for me? Being in tune with “Mother Nature”, or learning or to tap into fields of “energy” to increase my power and influence over others, these are recurrent themes that you’ll find on these websites.
What it really means is this : how can I become more powerful, more successful, how can I dominate others, or can I become my own God? There is no God, they say in their hearts, or rather, I am God, I am my own God.
It is the age-old lie of the serpent of old : “you will be like God, you eyes shall be opened.”
Genesis 3.4 But the serpent said to the woman, “You will not surely die. 5 For God knows that when you eat of it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.”
It’s an old lie and yet we still believe it. Like Gods! Able to become what we always wanted to be. We will have knowledge, we will be “enlightened”, we will have wisdom, power, authority. But seriously, who would trust a snake? Are we ignorant of his schemes? The snake cannot and will not be our friend, sooner or later it will bite, and the terrible effects of its venom will be felt. We’ll pay the price for allowing the snake to stay a little bit too close; really we should have crushed its head, but its voice was so seductive, so hypnotic, and it stirred up all these desires in us that we waiting to be awakened.
And yet we still have this burning desire on the inside. Surely, there must be more than this, more to life than the mundane, the material and natural realm. There is a craving inside of us for a deeper spiritual fulfillment, a desire for eternity placed within us. How to find a way out? Who would deliver of this wretched body of mine? Outside I’m decaying but inside something is alive that doesn’t want to die. Eternity! There must be something behind the veil, surely there is a way.
We’ll explore these possibilities in this blog and will offer an alternative voice to these empty claims. There is a way. Follow us on our journey.

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Steve Pavlina and personal development, his dangerous influence

I write this note and in fact, start this new thread on my blog in reaction to a phenomenon I believe to be extremely dangerous in the United States and indeed, across the world. I might just have a different perspective on it, being a foreigner, a frenchman, but it just doesn’t seem right to me. That literally millions of young americans would flock to this website of Mr Steve Pavlina and others of these so called self-development sites just astonishes me. But is is the sad reality, that these young adults, not having any vision for their life, no real values to lean on, no hope, would believe anything this guru would tell them. It’s incredible how people wait for someone else to show them the way. The reality is that they are completely lost, and therefore need direction. This position makes them very vulnerable and they listen to any authoritative voice. If you don’t have a vision for your life, if you do not see where you want to go and who you want to be, it won’t be long before somebody else dictates you what to do. Often it’s more subtle than that, you really think you are using you free will when in fact you are just being influenced by someone speaking into your life. The website I’m mainly talking about here, you can check it out for yourself, is called www.stevepavlina.com, and it has an enormous success.

Steve is a successful businessman who has built his fame and fortune by becoming this “guru” of self-development. In other words, he tells people how to live their lives and they love it. What’s disturbing in his whole approach is that he is a clever man who knows how to manipulate others. Very critical towards all religions, he has, in a sense, created his own. It’s in line with the adoration of the ego, the self-centeredness and the me, me-ism.” It’s all about me-me-me “. My happinness, my well-being, my development, my pleasure, my satisfaction…nothing new under the sun…

Very old philosophy in fact, and it’s called disobedience, rebellion, it’s called carnality. What is really is, is the rejection of a God who created us and the disparition of any accountability towards him. I am my own God. The problem here is that when people stop believing in God, they end up believing not in nothing, but rather in anything. The so-called modern philosophies, the new techniques, the new-age, are not new at all. In the old days they were called paganism, idol-worship. Even the generation of Abraham believed in the Gods of the Sun, the Earth, the Sea. It all boils down to one thing : worshipping the creature instead of the creator. It is a fascination for what is created, but the author of life is brushed aside like an obsolete theory.

In what spiritual state are these people? In a desperate state, ready to drink at any well. There is a water that can quench their thirst. If they drink of this water of life, they will never thirst again. If you are going to be influenced, which you would be, whether you like it or not, be influenced by the right power. There is a power over your life that controls you and will lead you to destruction. But there is another power that is gentle, and if you learn its ways, and how to surrender, you will flourish in every area of your life. Follow me on this journey and you will not regret it. This is only my first post on this topic but I am planning to write a lot more. Please feel free to leave comments, we’re gonna work together for a new voice to be heard. Why would we stay silent when the wolves have come to steal the sheeps, when the thieves come to kill, steal and destroy? We want to be this oasis in the spiritual desert, a well that will satisfy and lead to life in aboundance. I can’t wait until my next post. Coming soon.


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Developpement personnel, steve pavlina, dangereuse ideologie

J’écris ce billet en réaction a un evenement qui s’est produit hier soir. Je suis écoeuré. Au hasard de mes déambulations sur la toile, je suis tombé sur un de ces sites de developpement personnel americains. Après quelques recherches je me suis rendu compte que c’est un site qui a énormément de succès outre atlantique. Le nom du site, vous le connaissez peut-être, c’est stevepavlina.com.

Steve est un entrepreneur à succès qui est devenu millionaire en étant cette sorte de guru du développement personnel. En quelque sorte, il dit aux gens comment vivre leur vie et le public adore. Ce qui est vulgaire et malsain dans sa démarche, c’est qu’en homme intelligent, il sait comment séduire et manipuler les masses. Très critique a l’égard de toutes les religions, il sans l’admettre, crée la sienne. C’est le culte de l’égo, le moi-moi-moi-isme, poussé a l’extreme.

J’ai l’air un  peu amer? Peut-être, mais hier soir je me suis hasardé à participer à un de ses forums où les internautes discutent de tout et de rien, mais surtout de développement personnel, de spiritualité, de comment vivre et réussir sa vie. Et bien en l’espace de deux heures j’ai réussi a me faire bannir! Je suis interdit de forum, je ne peux même pas consulter les autres billets. Vous voulez savoir pourquoi? J’ai eu le malheur de partager mes croyances. C’est marrant comme on peut parler de bouddhisme, de philosophie Zen, d’enchantements, de sortilèges et même de satanisme sans se faire bannir, mais dès qu’on évoque le nom de Jésus, il y a opposition. Grrrr…c’est parce que lorsque le lion de Judah rugit, les démons commencent à se manifester! Il y a puissance dans le nom de Jesus.

C’est dommage, j’avais entamé une conversation avec un membre du forum sur la sexualité. J’ai partagé mes vues chretiennes sur le mariage et j’ai aussi parlé de mon passé, et des erreurs que j’ai pu commettre. Je lui expliquais que son âme ne trouverait pas de repos jusqu’à ce qu’elle trouve repos en Dieu. Sans le condamner, je lui démontrais que les plaisirs du péché sont certes bien réels, mais temporaires, et qu’au bout du compte ils mènent à la destruction, au désespoir. J’avais commencé à avoir son attention, mais j’ai vite été interdit de site, pour “trolling”, ce qui veut dire que selon eux je détournais les conversations à des fins néfastes au forum. Tout sauf Christ! Ils auraient du dire, s’ils avaient été vraiment honnêtes. Ce qui m’attriste c’est que ce site attire des millions d’internautes chaque jour, et que ces pauvres lecteurs se laissent influencer par ce “guru” diabolique. Ce qu’il prône, bien sûr, le culte de l’égo. Quoi d’autre? Rejetez les religions mais développez votre conscience. C’est du New-Age quoi. L’idée qu’il n’y a pas de Dieu, ou plutôt que je suis mon propre Dieu. Il prône aussi les pratiques sado-masochistes. Les rapports sexuels qui impliquent une relation de dominant et de soumis. Bref, il n’est pas difficile de voir derrière cette idéologie des forces démoniaques.

Je prie pour ces millions d’americains, pour qu’ils soient affranchis, que leurs chaines soient brisées. Ce qui est flagrant, c’est qu’ils cherchent des réponses à leurs questions. Ils ont soif, mais vont boire à la mauvaise source, celle qui ne satisfait pas. Leur soif ne sera jamais étanchee, pour cela il leur faudra boire l’eau vivante, l’eau du St Esprit.  “Quand tu bois de cette eau-ci, la soif revient; mais si tu bois de l’eau que je te donnerai, tu n’auras plus jamais soif; car mon eau deviendra en toi une source qui n’arrêtera jamais de jaillir.”


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